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Success can be define in so many ways, because each person aims to achieve different goals. Generally speaking success is usually measured by the wealth and influence one possesses. You wonder, what are the tools to be on the top of the game, and the reality is that in the hindsight we can see the missed opportunities but then it might be way too late.

One time at the gym I saw two personal trainers applying their well thought exercise regimen to help their students lose unwanted extra pounds. It made me wonder why those two clients decided to take advantage of extra help. I’m pretty sure they knew how to use basic equipment at the gym and if not they could easily obtain that knowledge with just one click on the internet.

The secret ingredient to the successful physical transition is motivation. Consider this, maybe if they had someone to encourage them on a daily basis they wouldn’t reach for food to comfort them.

If validation and positive recognition was on our daily menu we wouldn’t stray away from our goal. How hard it is to stay focused, stay on point when we are surrounded by constant judgment and critique. We do that to ourselves, we compare how much we have, how well we live, how many connections we have, how wealthy we are.  How often do we boast about others? How often do we stand on the baseline and encourage those who can never repay us?

Great success is the one that you made possible for others to achieve what they were craving for. We need to take “I” and “me” from the daily vocabulary in order to see what the victory looks like. Those two people at the gym wouldn’t have to shed any pounds if they had someone in their life to step in and fill the gap that they decided to fill with extra portion of some food. I bet you heard on Oprah show when she asked “what are you hungry for”, but instead have you ever asked that same question someone else, “what are they hungry for”.

This past Paribas Tournament in tennis, I watched underdog Babos vs. Lepchenko. In the middle of the match Babos showed a sign of resignation by shaking her head and it seemed to me she was about to let go and let Lepchenko win. I’m pretty sure she would if not for her coach who despite negative forecast that Babos was sharing with him during each break he was relentless in redirecting his player and motivating her to reach for courage that anything is possible when you believe. What’s even more important that she had someone to believe in her more than she believed in herself and that’s what ultimately in my opinion got her through the match with successful outcome 2:1.

Don’t’ be a Champion for Champion’s sake be a motivation for some else’s sake. That’s how you change the world.


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Recognition under one condition

loudWhen you turn on TV or browse the internet, the first common theme is about recognition. Every business wants to be visible, every person craves validation. The question remains as how we accomplish our recognition, which lately becomes for many as a perplexing endeavor.

We have to admit recognition becomes our daily chore. If you own a company, you want to attract as many customers as possible. If you want to become popular you have to make yourself visible. If you want to have friends you have to somehow find a common ground with others.

Let me explain something here. For some reasons nowadays, in order to achieve all those things mentioned above, you have to be LOUD, ENERGETIC, OUTGOING, CONFIDENT. In other words, there is no room for introverts anymore. Timid means weak.

And that makes me wonder. If everyone was an Alpha Person, people would never be able to get along, businesses wouldn’t be able to conduct their team efforts.

It is all about setting the right standards accordingly to each person. The advertisement world is full of loud commercials, where you can be the winner under certain conditions. You can be successful only if you are:

  •  confident
  • energetic
  •  fast
  • efficient
  • …..and of course lose weight

I believe everyone is talented, just not in the same manner. We can’t evaluate people based on their personalities. Timid people can contribute to the society as well.  Introverts are essential to bring balance into the world.

Don’t we crave for talented people with integrity. If we ask everyone to be certain way,  it means we ask some of them to pretend and be fake. Let’s not mold people accordingly to the current fashion.  Let everyone embrace their talents based on their abilities not the stereotypes. That way we let people utilize their whole potential, without changing who they really are.

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